Being single and Christian

In today’s day and age, being single and Christian can pose to be quite a challenge because of all of the temptations that are surrounding relationships. There are a lot of different challenges, risks, temptations, tests, and trials that come with being in a relationship, so it’s important to start a relationship when you feel like you’re ready. Don’t be in a rush to get into a relationship because it is a lot of work and sacrifice. When God sees fit, he will give you a boyfriend or girlfriend. Take it from a dude who is 25 years old and knows what you’re going through because he’s been through it as well, take your time and when you get to the right time, God will provide. Anyways, here is my take on being single and Christian

It rocks!

            Often times I hear of the things that men, specifically men, have to do in order to maintain a good relationship with their spouse. I have heard that it is actually a lot of sacrifice. I have seen that it is a lot of sacrifice.

            Not to say that there wouldn’t be somethings for the man, but of course, all with it’s checks and balances.

            My mother just told me that my dad works the hardest out of all of us. She says that he gets up in the early morning and goes to sleep late at night. She also said that he is the one in the family that hardly buys things for himself, that’s a lot of sacrifice!

            I personally don’t feel like I’m ready to make that type of commitment because in all reality, I want my money! I can’t imagine having to have all of that money and not being able to get what you want, that wouldn’t be fair!

            However, I know that when I become a father, that sacrifice won’t even be a sacrifice to me because it will be for my family that I am thinking of.

            HOWEVER, right now…. I want my money!

It is my chance

            It is my chance to grow as a person.

            Often times I get the chance to go for walks, go workout, go play pool, hang out with friends, or do things on my own.

            I couldn’t do that if I had a family or even a girlfriend. I’m pretty sure that if I had a girlfriend, she would want me to be with her all the time. Why? Cause that’s why boyfriends and girlfriends do!

            Back when I was growing up, we would joke around with jokes telling each other that we would never give up a friend for a girl! Never in our lives would we do that! Yet the very first thing that all of the “bros” did when they got a girlfriend is that they would stop hanging out with the dudes, or quit doing the stuff that he did in the past! Haha! Isn’t that funny?

            Right now that I am single, I do what I want, when I want. Not to say that I’m going to go out to clubs and dance with random strangers, but I do get to go play pool, walk around, get my own smoothies and Frappuccino’s and so on and so forth.

It’s a time to show commitment

            You can take this however you want, but I believe that God wants us to be chase until marriage. So, when you’re single, you need to show God your commitment towards him by not submitting to the temptations and lusts of this world.

            The bible literally says to flee from fornication, and it says it in the New Testament. Why? Because when you commit fornication, you are sinning against your own self.

            I know that it is difficult to bare in mind, however, hang in there and ask the Lord to give you strength when you are doing this commitment.

Being single and Christian is not lonely

            Why do I say this? Because you have all sorts of friends when you are Christian and single. If I were to have a girlfriend, I’m pretty sure she wouldn’t want me to hang out with other girls because that would just be wrong! I know for a fact that if I had a girlfriend, I would not want her to go and hang out with another dude because that would be wrong!

            Right now that I am single and Christian, it’s the time and chance to show everyone what I’m made of! I can show everyone how friendly I am and also what my values are. This will in turn bring about more friends.

There will always be someone who loves you

            And that someone is Jesus. Jesus, God, and the Holy spirit will love you for sticking it out with them throughout all of your difficult times. The Lord knows what you need, so he will give you the relationships that you need at the right time. God will give you the people that are good in your life at the right time because he loves you.

            The people that God will put in your life will love you because of your desire for God.

Remember this, that if God wanted you to have a spouse, he would give you her or him

            The Lord has the right person in mind for you. Just be patient and love God above all else and stick with God because God can and he will provide!

            I’ll be honest here, there are people out there that don’t marry. I can’t speak on their behalf or what their situation is, however, if you want a wife or a husband, then ask God for one and have the utmost faith that he will provide.

            God may not provide your lusts, but he will provide what you need.

Be happy with your situation

            Contentment isn’t exactly a bad thing! I know often times we are always looking to get ahead, however, what happens when God has given you everything that you need for your situation? What happens when God has given you everything that he has decided is good for you?

            Would you like to introduce something bad into your life? No you wouldn’t, so then look for God for the things that you need and be satisfied with them. I remember I used to pray to God for a laptop, the one that I have right now is the one that he provided with those prayers, when I finally got the laptop, it’s like I just left it alone and I didn’t appreciate it. It wasn’t until a few years later that I started to really appreciate it.

            Anyways, what I’m trying to say, is you don’t know what you got till it’s gone, so appreciate every single moment of your single life because everything that God gives is a blessing.

Change the way that you think about being single

            Being single isn’t bad! There I said it. I will say it again, Being single isn’t bad! Just because God has set you, for the moment, to be single, doesn’t mean that you will be like that forever or that it is even a bad thing.

            I remember I used to have a friend who was always getting a new girlfriend and he said to me that he just doesn’t want to be lonely. I looked at him and I couldn’t believe what I was hearing because who says that he was going to be lonely? I sure didn’t believe that he was going to be lonely for he is such a good guy. Very funny, smart, and all the girls were after him. It made me upset with him!

            Anyways, you are not lonely just because you have a girlfriend. Do you think that having a girlfriend is going to make you less lonely? No it’s not! When you are single, you are going to have way more friends and relationships than when you have a girl or guy.

            ***This is of course not to say that you won’t have friends and family when you are married, it’s just that your spouse will become your priority when you get married. ***

Moving forward

            I think that singleness is a chance to show what you’re really made of. It’s a chance to develop friendships and enjoy life. Enjoy life all while being Christian is such a fun thing to do. Why? Because you don’t have any risks associated with death while being Christian. You don’t have the problems that this world often likes to put on themselves. I think that the single life rocks!

            With that being said, I do plan on getting married in the future. I do plan on having wife and kids but I wish that it would be with a girl that loves God just as much as I do. So, to all of you girls out there, you are not a burden, you are a blessing for the world, so treat yourself as such. There will be one guy out there who will appreciate you more than anything in the world. So hang on to God harder than ever, and God will provide!             Thank you all for listening in on this blog post. I hope that I have been an encouragement and inspiration to you guys. Please pray, read your bible, go to church, and above all else, love God with all your heart. Like, comment, share, and subscribe and I will see you all next time. German Gonzalez, signing out!